Review by Stephen W. Hiemstra
As the father of three 20-somethings, I have frequently been torn between repressed anger, guilt, and a feeling of total inadequacy as a parent. Thanks to the influence of Sharon D. Parks, Big Questions; Worthy Dreams, I have found mentoring to be a reasonable response to my parenting situation.
Parks makes two points that clarify the mentoring task at hand.
The first point is her definition of a young adult. She asks: When does one cross the threshold into adulthood? The response of North American culture is ambiguous (4). Finding work and a spouse are still important, but the time required to become educated and increasing problem of downward mobility make it harder to become settled. The ambiguity and instability of the young adult situation in society are reflected in the greater challenge facing mentors, including parents.
The second point is reflected in her title. Young adulthood is a life-stage where the formation of meaning is particularly important. Parks writes: in the years from seventeen to thirty a distinctive mode of meaning-making can emerge, one that has certain adult characteristics but understandably lacks others (6).
The importance of challenging the young adult to take new faith steps is captured in her prescription–develop and expand a worthy, young adult dream. Parks writes: If the young adult Dream is to have mature power and serve the full potential of self and world, then it must be critically reexamined from time to time throughout adulthood (219). The role of mentors is to help the young adult craft, refine, and be true to this dream.
Parks writes Big Questions, Worthy Dreams in 10 chapters:
- Young Adulthood in a Changing World: Promise and Vulnerability;
- Meaning and Faith;
- Becoming at Home in the Universe;
- It Matters How We Think;
- It All Depends…;
- …On Belonging;
- Imagination: The Power of Adult Faith;
- The Gifts of a Mentoring Environoment;
- Mentoring Communities; and
- Culture as a Mentor (vii).
These chapters are bracketed by a preface and various references at the end. At the time of publication, Parks was an associate director at the Whidbey Institute near Seattle, WA . She is now involved with an effort called the Leadership for the New Commons . Formerly, she was with Harvard Divinity School and other noteworthy institutions.
The scope and depth of Park’s scholarship suggests that this book targets graduate students and professionals focused on counseling young adults. Most readers looking for advice on parenting are likely to find this book a challenging read. The gap between these two ready audiences suggests an opportunity for a follow up text focused on aid and comfort for the typical parents of young adults.