Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of God. (2 Corinthians 7:1 ESV)
By Stephen W. Hiemstra
The rapid pace of cultural change in our society can sometimes leave us speechless and unable to process some things that we observe. For me, one of those moments occurred last week when I walked into my living room and saw my wife watching an episode of Dr. Phil. On the show, a 16-year woman shamelessly recounted how she had been sexually intimate with several young men, one after the other, at a party. Yet, she was upset on the show primarily because the whole incident was video-taped by others present . By contrast, her mother’s response was more like mine—she was speechless and horrified.
A cultural anthropologist might describe this incident as an example of a response in a guilt-innocence culture where things not illegal trigger no internal feeling of shame—the individual feels no accountability to social norms (even on national television). In an honor-shame culture, by contrast, the expected response would be to feel shame and attempt to hide the behavior to avoid sanctioning by the community . My distress in observing this show suggests that one dimension of cultural change today is the shift from an honor-shame culture of most adults to a guilt-innocence culture among some youth today.
In chapter 5 of Paul’s second letter to the church at Corinth clearly addresses the culture in Corinth as an honor-shame culture. The idea of holiness expressed in verse 1, for example, talks about holiness as spiritual cleansing motivated by fear of God. Holiness is a virtue or character trait focusing on separating oneself from evil practices—defilement (spiritual dirtiness) —or to preserve the sacred nature of something. Holiness is a character trait valued primarily in an honor-shame culture, not a guilt-innocence culture.
Paul observes in the Corinthian church experiencing Godly grief after they mistreated him. Paul writes:
As it is, I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because you were grieved into repenting. For you felt a godly grief, so that you suffered no loss through us. For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death (vv 9-10).
In other words, Godly grief brings shame which leads to repentance and a turning to God, hence—salvation. The young woman on Dr. Phil, by contrast, only grieved that she had been video-taped—she expressed no repentance. The discipline which Paul practiced in Corinth and led to their salvation would have been pointless in the case of this young woman.
How does someone experience Godly grief in a guilt-innocence culture? I fear that one can only outgrow a youth culture stuck in guilt-innocence mode , but I pray for God’s intervention.
 Dr. Phil, August 6, 2014, Not-So-Sweet 16: “My Daughter’s Dangerous Sex Life” (http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/2220).
 μολυσμός (BDAG 4973) noun version of verb, μολύνω (BDAG 4972.1), meaning to “cause something to become dirty or soiled, stain”, soil in a “in sacred and moral context”.
 One could perhaps say that Rosaria Butterfield went through this process marrying at age 39. No longer able to have children of her own, she and her husband adopted and raised orphans. (The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert. Pittsburgh: Crown and Covenant Publications, 2012, page 108).